Friday, April 1, 2011

Bullies

Bullies come in all shapes and sizes. Some are big, some are little. Some are animals, and some are grownups.

Dealing with bullies is learned at a young age for most of us. I had my experience in grade school. Let's just say it made my ENTIRE school experience pretty icky and I couldn't wait to get out of HS so I could go out and have a life. Sometimes it doesn't work that way. I think I got lucky....

Bullies in elementary schools are given lots of chances. At our recent experience in the grades, it was told to us that records of special needs kids bullying each other was not kept. It was not relevant and expectations of our kids was not the same as the gen population.

DID YOU HEAR THAT?

So if one special needs kid went after another special needs kid it wasn't worth reporting?
What if someone went after a gen? A gen vs a gen is reported, a gen vs special needs is reported....what is up with that system? Really it comes down to expectations. We came into the gen district with HIGH expectations. They were crudely dashed after we got our son  into HS. He is now working his way thru a lot of things and has learned gobs.

the fear of bullies still gets him though. Even seeing this one kid in the hall can set off problems or panics. Although we are certain the HS is on it...nothing has been reported to us by him recently...the recent spate of stories about bullies and famous people being bullied as a child is quite something. Kate Middleton, Kate Winslet, Tom Cruise, Kevin Costner, Sir Ranulph Fiennes, and MORE.

So for the average Joe what does this mean? Bullying is teasing and more....and although we work with our son to NOT be a bully and to be almost disgustingly polite. It is still there. The fear that he might try to bully someone because of what he has been through.

I still worry though.