Wednesday, January 20, 2016

Allergies- over use of laundry soap

We have been on the short end of the stick with allergic reactions lately.

The cuter half is allergic to any number of things and it has been years since he has had problems. Lately though it has gotten worse; he is really suffering so we went through everything (food, vitamins, household cleaners, cat fur, weather; you name it) and finally determined what the problem was.

Laundry Soap.

Yup that is it. Laundry soap. He is reacting to over exposure of the new pod format and it is really bothering him.

Which means we went to a laundromat in town. Anyone who lives in the burbs knows that a laundromat is a pretty rare commodity. We finally found one in town near the mall. The owner is a sweet man who has put up with us for the last couple of days. He thought we were off our rockers NOT using soap- we didn't need soap all we needed was water, the clothes, et al provided all the soap we needed. Watching the clothes getting wet and all the soap coming out of the clothes (who needs soap through your clothes in and watch) made us realize how MUCH soap had been going into our clothes. OMG.

We are now NOT going with what is on ads (shit have you seen the over use on those things holy crap) Retraining the boy is another matter; he was doing laundry for grandma and now he is relearning that we don't need as much to clean our clothes. (Grandma's clothes had other issues and more soap was necessary).

SO today's lesson is - watch your laundry soap usage; usually covering the bottom of the cup is more than enough. Over use is not always better it can cause hives, chemical burns and other issues that will be pretty dreadful to the sufferer,

I am still planning on getting rid of our front load washer- that thing is a bloody menace to our home (cute one FINALLY agrees with me). Cleaning it after every 5-7 loads? Seriously? I spend more money on cleaning (and water for) the stupid thing than what I am actually using it. Currently, I am in for a top load washer (clean 1x per month) and am currently taking recommendations. FYI- please ton't tell me how wonderful your front loaders are; the amount of laundry I do for us and my Mom is ridiculous and frankly a front loader is not able to handle our usage requirements. In one day I can do upwards of 10 loads of laundry. A front loader is not capable of handling 10 days of 10 loads every day. I have done it and have borne with a ton of frustration.

ALSO while doing all of this great stuff ("Watching the clothes go round" is a song you know), I have a new book recommendation: Troublemaker by Leah Remini. Really great book and very telling about a number of different things. Although she had applied this to Scientology I can see this being applied to mega-churches as well. I have been reading this book while hanging out at the laundromat- if I started singing I think the owner would have sworn I was on something- I am adding one of my favorite songs here just for fun:

Tuesday, January 12, 2016


One of my college roommates reminded me of a time where I would jump on the couch and lip sync to David Bowie. I remember dancing and trying to imitate a graceful move that probably landed me right on my butt. Usually I would sing one of the 80's favorites- "Let's Dance", "Heroes" or one of the other popular radio highlights.

I think the reason David appealed to me what the fact that he just flat out "said it" in his music. There were no garbagie blah-ness-ick. there was Bowie, singing, sometimes dancing and working his head off. Greatness within a person is truely rare and sadly his family has lost their stardust. It really is devastating for them. I believe, though, that a strength for them is the actual business acumen that David showed - 'BlacklStar" ( I shouldn't write when I've had several martinis I make stupid mistakes)  is one of his best pieces of work. Has left them and us a legacy - in music- and also how to take care of those we love.

Taking care and making certain that they are able to handle themselves when we are not here anymore. I worry about that a lot....the boy has a lot of brains and very little sense about what he needs to do and how to do it. I don't mean like work and stuff. I think he will be OK in that venue. I more mean regular life skills. Feeding himself, setting up his meds, reading his health insurance plan, you know- the fun stuff....the little picky stuff that most people wish they didn't have to do but are glad it is done for the week when it is completed.

Oddly enough I had heard that the boy was taught that in HS. Apparently they didn't teach him what he needed to know outside the school life- why balancing your checkbook is a big deal. How much money do you think you need at a given time for a purchase. What you need to do to get a mortgage and why this is important. What is better? Free online item and spend enough for free shipping or getting the free online item and paying the shipping. What about online banking- they didn't even touch that one. Credit cards? Nope- in fact the boy told me he is afraid of them after seeing what has happened to friends of his who used them and couldn't pay them back.

I think that the life skills we can learn by watching David Bowie are kind of important. He was iconic in his music; but look at his financial portfolio (Bowie Bonds- absolute genius). He has cared for his family in a way that will help his wife, Iman, and his two kids. THAT is important. He was able to rest in peace knowing he had covered his family in the best way he could when he wasn't around any longer.

I will never be a financial David Bowie, but I am going to be damn sure the boy will be able to balance his checkbook, pay his bills and stay employed. Deep down I know that the boy will be able to take care of himself and do what he needs to do....I hope your Aspie can do the same things too.

In the mean time, "Let's Dance"